Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?). 'Pick your battles' is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it … Continue reading Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication is the foundation of your relationship; you and your partner rely on healthy communication skills to productively work through both celebrations and struggles in your relationship. Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively. To recap, assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in … Continue reading Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Sure, we communicate with our partner regularly, but the quality (which really matters) is not always a concern. Productive, supportive, positive communication is vital to relationship health. When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good! Give praise to your partner and share affirmations which help increase … Continue reading Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening. The process of active listening lets the speaker know if their message was accurately received. It’s imperative for the listener to acknowledge the content and the feelings of the speaker. Acknowledge content AND the feelings … Continue reading Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard

Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening. To be assertive, it’s important to take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings by using “I” statements instead of starting with “you.” In making constructive requests, be positive and respectful in communication. Use polite phrases … Continue reading Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship

When you put effort towards something, it can be helpful to foresee outcomes

Whether you work through your CoupleCheckup results in its entirety or section by section, articulating outcomes now, being mindful of them along the way will help guide you and your partner to find success through the journey. Accountability (or lack of it) can be the reason you reach (or fail to reach) a particular outcome. … Continue reading When you put effort towards something, it can be helpful to foresee outcomes

Couple checkup: Taking steps toward building a stronger and healthier relationship

By taking the Couple Checkup, couples take positive steps toward building a stronger and healthier relationship. The act of completing an assessment primes them to be more open and motivated to discuss relationship topics with their partner. Making sure couples acknowledge and celebrate this effort is important! First things first, couples talk about how it … Continue reading Couple checkup: Taking steps toward building a stronger and healthier relationship

Relationship Policies set a criteria for conflicting interests

A recent US study reported that 10% of married couples meet as colleagues. With the amount of time spent in the office this number is unsurprising. However, office romances can cause problems for employers – this can range from a drop in productivity, to conflict of interest or a costly harassment claim. As an employer, … Continue reading Relationship Policies set a criteria for conflicting interests

5 ways to celebrate your relationship: Dance together

Here are five small ways to celebrate your relationship today (or any day of the year), because your relationship is worth a little extra effort today. 4.  Dance together: It could be a night out dancing to your favorite local band, a small dance in the kitchen while you are making dinner, or a recreation … Continue reading 5 ways to celebrate your relationship: Dance together

5 ways to celebrate your relationship: Share your gratitude

Here are five small ways to celebrate your relationship today (or any day of the year), because your relationship is worth a little extra effort today. 3.  Share your gratitude: Take a quick moment to share with your partner what you appreciate about them. Start with, “I appreciate you for…” “Research shows that people who … Continue reading 5 ways to celebrate your relationship: Share your gratitude