For married couples, a focus on how they resolve conflict, react to daily stressors and interact with each other can reduce stress – significantly

In today’s fast paced society, it is impossible to avoid stress in our lives. Stressors being external events which cause an emotional or physical reaction can be handled in 2 basic ways: Eliminate the stressor or Change one’s reaction to stress. When a stressor cannot be eliminated, it is important to look at how one … Continue reading For married couples, a focus on how they resolve conflict, react to daily stressors and interact with each other can reduce stress – significantly

Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

A study in the US surveyed almost 1,000 couples who had been married five years or less and identified sex, work and finances as the top three problem and adjustment issues for couples (Risch, Riley & Lawler: 2003). The top three issues identified were: frequency of sexual relations balancing job and family financial issues Continuing … Continue reading Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Exploring your personality and your partner’s personality, can be a fascinating and fun process. It can also point out challenges for couples who love one another, but have very different personalities and approaches to life. Remember the positive aspects of your partner’s personality that attracted you in the first place. Question: Do “opposites attract” or … Continue reading Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Are you sharing decision making in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. Often our traditional or equalitarian behaviours are bought into out relationship from our family of origin. If you expect to have an equal relationship, where … Continue reading Are you sharing decision making in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Are you sharing the household responsibilities in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how household responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. How do you plan to balance your work with household tasks and responsibilities?  Are there certain tasks that neither of you like to do?  What would need … Continue reading Are you sharing the household responsibilities in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Are you sharing decision making and leadership in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore relationship roles with your partner

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. Your career (equalitarian): A career can be equally important to both partners. Can you share why having a career is important to you? Do you … Continue reading Are you sharing decision making and leadership in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore relationship roles with your partner

Managing your finances well brings a sense of calm that can do wonders to your relationship

Looking to having your financial situation in order isn't that sexy but it does assist in freeing up the mind and the left hand side of the brain to concentrate on other priorities in your relationship. Freeing your mind from the daily grind of managing your budget can do wonders for other areas of your … Continue reading Managing your finances well brings a sense of calm that can do wonders to your relationship

Happily married couples tend to have better physical and emotional health, greater financial stability and more sexual satisfaction

Marriage is perhaps the most complex and challenging of all human relationships. The joining of two people in a relationship which is intended to last a lifetime can involve great effort to develop and maintain. There are many benefits for those who make the commitment to marriage and manage to maintain a successful relationship. Happily … Continue reading Happily married couples tend to have better physical and emotional health, greater financial stability and more sexual satisfaction

What are your short-term and long-term financial goals?

Budgeting is simply the process of allocating expenses on a regular basis. A good #budget is simple, realistic and clear. It builds in some personal control for each family member. In creating a realistic budget, focus first on the most basic needs like food, housing and clothing. Second, focus on what you would like to … Continue reading What are your short-term and long-term financial goals?

Sliding v Deciding: Cohabitation and couple Finances

A major finding of recent research into the effects of cohabitation on subsequent marital outcomes is the potential detrimental consequences of ‘sliding’ in relationships rather than ‘deciding’ – that is letting transition events ‘just happen’ rather than making a considered, unambiguous decision. A discussion for cohabiting couples is about what the couple agree a healthy … Continue reading Sliding v Deciding: Cohabitation and couple Finances