Money has the potential to become a point of contention in your relationship

Financial management is often a source of conflict for couples that grows out of a lack of understanding and communication around money and how it relates to your relationship. Takeaway Money has the potential to become a point of contention in your relationship; be proactive and begin to understand how money influences the relationship you … Continue reading Money has the potential to become a point of contention in your relationship

What is your plan for how you will financially prepare for new phases in your life together?

Financial management is often a source of conflict for couples, causing tension when there isn’t enough, when it isn’t allocated correctly, and when there are different ideas surrounding its purpose. Understanding how you and your partner relate to money – and how that in turn impacts your relationship – by asking “Why?” Ask to understand, … Continue reading What is your plan for how you will financially prepare for new phases in your life together?

Recognising the way in which money can strengthen your relationship

Money has the potential to become a point of contention in your relationship; be proactive and begin to understand how money influences the relationship you have with your partner. Begin to understand how you and your partner relate to money – and how that in turn impacts your relationship – by asking “Why?” Ask to … Continue reading Recognising the way in which money can strengthen your relationship

Recognising the way in which money can strengthen your relationship, perhaps through generosity and giving

Financial management is often a source of conflict for couples, causing tension when there isn’t enough, when it isn’t allocated correctly, and when there are different ideas surrounding its purpose. A final step to understanding is recognizing the way in which money can strengthen your relationship, perhaps through generosity and giving. Discussion What aspects of … Continue reading Recognising the way in which money can strengthen your relationship, perhaps through generosity and giving

Conflict tends to grow out of a lack of understanding and communication around money and how it relates to our relationship

Financial management is often a source of conflict for couples, causing tension when there isn’t enough, when it isn’t allocated correctly, and when there are different ideas surrounding its purpose. Conflict tends to grow out of a lack of understanding and communication around money and how it relates to your relationship. The first step to … Continue reading Conflict tends to grow out of a lack of understanding and communication around money and how it relates to our relationship

For married couples, a focus on how they resolve conflict, react to daily stressors and interact with each other can reduce stress – significantly

In today’s fast paced society, it is impossible to avoid stress in our lives. Stressors being external events which cause an emotional or physical reaction can be handled in 2 basic ways: Eliminate the stressor or Change one’s reaction to stress. When a stressor cannot be eliminated, it is important to look at how one … Continue reading For married couples, a focus on how they resolve conflict, react to daily stressors and interact with each other can reduce stress – significantly

Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

A study in the US surveyed almost 1,000 couples who had been married five years or less and identified sex, work and finances as the top three problem and adjustment issues for couples (Risch, Riley & Lawler: 2003). The top three issues identified were: frequency of sexual relations balancing job and family financial issues Continuing … Continue reading Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Exploring your personality and your partner’s personality, can be a fascinating and fun process. It can also point out challenges for couples who love one another, but have very different personalities and approaches to life. Remember the positive aspects of your partner’s personality that attracted you in the first place. Question: Do “opposites attract” or … Continue reading Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Are you sharing decision making in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. Often our traditional or equalitarian behaviours are bought into out relationship from our family of origin. If you expect to have an equal relationship, where … Continue reading Are you sharing decision making in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Are you sharing the household responsibilities in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how household responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. How do you plan to balance your work with household tasks and responsibilities?  Are there certain tasks that neither of you like to do?  What would need … Continue reading Are you sharing the household responsibilities in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin