Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

There are many personality theories and concepts that can help you understand your own personality and your partners. Couple Checkup uses SCOPE to help individuals see how high or low they score on each of the five factors of personality (Social, Change, Organised, Pleasing and Emotionally calm). With SCOPE, it is possible to score high on … Continue reading Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

Personality is simply understood as the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking and behaving. It is one of those things in life that can't change and it tends to stay stable over time. Some might argue you can change aspects of your personality, or your partner’s, if you try hard … Continue reading Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a "time out." Taking 5 to 20 minutes away from your partner will calm you enough to allow … Continue reading When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What does “take … Continue reading When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How can you … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What is my … Continue reading Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

Pick your battles is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it can be detrimental to your relationship. Pride, bias, and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?). 'Pick your battles' is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it … Continue reading Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication is the foundation of your relationship; you and your partner rely on healthy communication skills to productively work through both celebrations and struggles in your relationship. Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively. To recap, assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in … Continue reading Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Sure, we communicate with our partner regularly, but the quality (which really matters) is not always a concern. Productive, supportive, positive communication is vital to relationship health. When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good! Give praise to your partner and share affirmations which help increase … Continue reading Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!