Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened. Take action now and make it a point to talk about it

Commitment is not just a verbal exchange; it is a way of living out your relationship through meaningful actions that honor your verbal exchange. If you are engaged, notice the ways in which your commitment to your partner and your relationship are on display for others to honour. If you are married, acknowledge that the … Continue reading Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened. Take action now and make it a point to talk about it

Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship stating, “no matter what comes our way I will always be here for you.”

It’s crucial to understand your partner may be trying to show you they are committed, and you may just not be seeing it. Your partner’s level of commitment and your opinion or observation of their commitment could easily be two different things. Showing commitment in a variety of ways can help confirm your commitment, whether … Continue reading Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship stating, “no matter what comes our way I will always be here for you.”

Commitment can be clear when we say statements like, “’till death do us part,” but the way in which we show commitment to our partner is much less clear

If you took an assessment or are working through aspects if your relationship, or just reading this blog, not only are you committed to strengthening your relationship, but you are committed to your partner. Maybe you formally committed to each other by accepting a proposal six months ago or by exchanging vows at your wedding … Continue reading Commitment can be clear when we say statements like, “’till death do us part,” but the way in which we show commitment to our partner is much less clear

Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

There are many personality theories and concepts that can help you understand your own personality and your partners. Couple Checkup uses SCOPE to help individuals see how high or low they score on each of the five factors of personality (Social, Change, Organised, Pleasing and Emotionally calm). With SCOPE, it is possible to score high on … Continue reading Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

Personality is simply understood as the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking and behaving. It is one of those things in life that can't change and it tends to stay stable over time. Some might argue you can change aspects of your personality, or your partner’s, if you try hard … Continue reading Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a "time out." Taking 5 to 20 minutes away from your partner will calm you enough to allow … Continue reading When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What does “take … Continue reading When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How can you … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What is my … Continue reading Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

Pick your battles is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it can be detrimental to your relationship. Pride, bias, and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation