Text, Twitter, Tweet… Changing how couples connect emotionally

Social media has changed the daily lives of couples by: How they stay in touch with others (and reconnect with people); The way couples make friends, how they find acquaintances and how others find partners by connecting with people anywhere in the world; How couples do business, how businesses connect to buyers and potential buyers; … Continue reading Text, Twitter, Tweet… Changing how couples connect emotionally

Communication, conflict resolution, couple closeness and couple flexibility were the four foundational skills found to be most predictive of a successful relationship.

An important goal of all Relationship Education is to help build new strengths by resolving current issues. A national survey in the US of over 21,501 married couples identified these four important relationship skills that are key components for a happy marriage (Olson and Olson, 2000). Since then research has consistently found communication and conflict … Continue reading Communication, conflict resolution, couple closeness and couple flexibility were the four foundational skills found to be most predictive of a successful relationship.

Keep practicing what you have learnt: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

They say practice makes perfect, but when it comes to our relationships, we are likely to make mistakes. The key is building awareness and developing skills and practicing those skills. Be aware of the ineffective ways we resort to when there is conflict and understand the physical signs that give us an indication that things … Continue reading Keep practicing what you have learnt: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

Validate what your partner says: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. By listening and speaking in a non-defensive fashion, avoiding criticism you can help foster healthy discussion. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of life but by speaking non-defensively, this positive posture will benefit your relationship. The following four strategies from relationship guru … Continue reading Validate what your partner says: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

Speak non defensively: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. By listening and speaking in a non-defensive fashion, avoiding criticism you can help foster healthy discussion. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of life but by speaking non-defensively, this positive posture will benefit your relationship. The following four strategies from relationship guru … Continue reading Speak non defensively: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

What matters is how we handle disagreements: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of every relationship and what matters is how we discuss and resolve our differences. The following four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman will help you break patterns of negativity and take a positive approach to … Continue reading What matters is how we handle disagreements: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

This month we are making a commitment to “check-in” every day

I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we take the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other. But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check-in daily” Here’s what we did … Continue reading This month we are making a commitment to “check-in” every day

We are making a commitment to meet weekly: the next level “check in”

I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we take the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other. Weekly check-in: Every Friday, we will decided to meet at our local coffee shop and “check in” (if … Continue reading We are making a commitment to meet weekly: the next level “check in”

We barely have time for each other: Pick a reasonable time and decided on just how often you will “check in”

I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we drive the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other. But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check in.” A “check in” is … Continue reading We barely have time for each other: Pick a reasonable time and decided on just how often you will “check in”

Fighting fair: Focus on the behaviour, not the person

You can try to avoid conflict by tamping down negative emotions and brushing seemingly minor issues under the rug, but at some point, they will come back to bite you. Many times this is in the form of a blowup that is completely disproportional to whatever seemed to trigger it. You end up fighting not … Continue reading Fighting fair: Focus on the behaviour, not the person