How does your communication and conflict resolution patterns contribute to expectations in your relationship?

There are certain expectations you have of yourself, and others that you put on your partner, and while that is not a bad thing, it can become detrimental to your relationship if your expectations are not realistic or even worse, uncommunicated. Additionally, if you expect something from your partner that is completely outside of their … Continue reading How does your communication and conflict resolution patterns contribute to expectations in your relationship?

Conflict is inevitable in relationships: Make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger. The next time you find yourself on the verge of an argument, focus on using “I statements” to take responsibility for your own feeling: “I felt … Continue reading Conflict is inevitable in relationships: Make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict

What are non-verbal cues that you give your partner or that your partner gives you that influence the direction of the discussion?

Pride, bias, and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict in your relationship. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How does … Continue reading What are non-verbal cues that you give your partner or that your partner gives you that influence the direction of the discussion?

If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a “time out”

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a "time out." Taking 5 to 20 minutes away from your partner will calm you enough to allow … Continue reading If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a “time out”

When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What does “take … Continue reading When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How can you … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What is my … Continue reading Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

Pick your battles is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it can be detrimental to your relationship. When conflict arises and the issue is of a serious nature to both or one partner, seek to put aside time when both are ready to discuss … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict: For starters, resist the urge to bring up past experiences that have already been resolved

While pride, bias, and defensiveness are mechanisms that prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner, there are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict in your relationship. Communicating assertively and taking responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focusing solely on the issue at hand … Continue reading There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict: For starters, resist the urge to bring up past experiences that have already been resolved

Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?). 'Pick your battles' is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it … Continue reading Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner