Showing commitment in a variety of ways can help confirm your commitment, whether it is formally spoken or not

Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship stating, “no matter what comes our way I will always be here for you." We’ve all heard the cliché “actions speak louder than words,” and in the case of commitment, it may be true. The discrepancy between what we say and what we do comes when we … Continue reading Showing commitment in a variety of ways can help confirm your commitment, whether it is formally spoken or not

Balance between “I” and “We” may not always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome

Couples exist on a spectrum between "I" and "We", but the key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it … Continue reading Balance between “I” and “We” may not always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome

What does it feel like when you have a stretch of time when you barely see your partner?

Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome. Take time with your partner to discuss the … Continue reading What does it feel like when you have a stretch of time when you barely see your partner?

Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication

Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together. Maybe you and your partner are engaged or newly married and you are happy, in love, and feel more connected than ever – you’re more on the “we” end … Continue reading Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication

There is no perfect way to balance being together and apart from your partner: Balancing “I” and “We” requires communication

We all know that one couple who does everything together – he tags along to book club, she comes with to watch the game. They share every leisure activity and rarely attend activities independently. Conversely, you know that other couple that seems to live completely separate lives—different friends, hobbies, and ways of spending their free … Continue reading There is no perfect way to balance being together and apart from your partner: Balancing “I” and “We” requires communication

Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?). 'Pick your battles' is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it … Continue reading Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication is the foundation of your relationship; you and your partner rely on healthy communication skills to productively work through both celebrations and struggles in your relationship. Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively. To recap, assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in … Continue reading Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Sure, we communicate with our partner regularly, but the quality (which really matters) is not always a concern. Productive, supportive, positive communication is vital to relationship health. When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good! Give praise to your partner and share affirmations which help increase … Continue reading Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Assertiveness and active listening are two skills that help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening. Let's firstly talk about assertiveness. Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship. Assertiveness is a valuable communication skill. In successful couples, both individuals tend to be quite assertive. … Continue reading Assertiveness and active listening are two skills that help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship

Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened. Take action now and make it a point to talk about it

Commitment is not just a verbal exchange; it is a way of living out your relationship through meaningful actions that honor your verbal exchange. If you are engaged, notice the ways in which your commitment to your partner and your relationship are on display for others to honour. If you are married, acknowledge that the … Continue reading Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened. Take action now and make it a point to talk about it