Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger. The next time you find yourself on the verge of an argument, focus on using “I statements” to take responsibility for your own feeling: “I felt … Continue reading Conflict is inevitable in relationships: Make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict
Pride, bias, and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict in your relationship. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How does … Continue reading What are non-verbal cues that you give your partner or that your partner gives you that influence the direction of the discussion?
Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?). 'Pick your battles' is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it … Continue reading Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner
Communication is the foundation of your relationship; you and your partner rely on healthy communication skills to productively work through both celebrations and struggles in your relationship. Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively. To recap, assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in … Continue reading Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs
Sure, we communicate with our partner regularly, but the quality (which really matters) is not always a concern. Productive, supportive, positive communication is vital to relationship health. When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good! Give praise to your partner and share affirmations which help increase … Continue reading Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!
In today’s fast paced society, it is impossible to avoid stress in our lives. A recent survey of Australian adults found that 1 in 4 respondents reported moderate to severe levels of stress, highest amongst 18-25 and 26-35 age groups. Almost 1 in 5 (17%) reported that current stress levels are having a strong to … Continue reading It seems impossible to avoid stress in our lives: 2 basic ways to cope with stress
Whilst Australia has seen a declining rate of marriage since 1947 - similar to other western nations - today more than 70% of women will marry in their lifetime, 1 in 5 marrying at least twice, with 4 in 5 couples living together before marriage (an increase from less than 1 in 5 in 1975). … Continue reading Married people tend to have healthier lifestyles, live longer, have more satisfying sexual relationships
Here are five small ways to celebrate your relationship today (or any day of the year), because your relationship is worth a little extra effort today. Bonus: 6. Discover the hidden treasures of your relationship: People are always growing and relationships are constantly changing. Almost all relationships begin in a honeymoon phase, where couples see … Continue reading 5 small ways to celebrate your relationship today – bonus: Discover the hidden treasures of your relationship
Daily Dialogue is an intentional effort to talk about your relationship, rather than discussing your activities that day. The focus of daily dialogue is on your feelings about each other and your lives together. Beyond daily dialogue, taking time to discuss deeper more intimate details about your feelings is also important towards increasing intimacy. In … Continue reading How is my relationship going… answer these 10 questions and find out
Daily Compliments help you focus on the positive things you like about each other. Every day give your partner at least one genuine compliment. These can be general (“you are fun to be with”) or specific (“I appreciate that you were on time for the concert”). Communicate techniques to increase intimacy: Give full attention to … Continue reading Daily Compliments, guaranteed to increase intimacy