You can try to avoid conflict by tamping down negative emotions and brushing seemingly minor issues under the rug, but at some point, they will come back to bite you. Many times this is in the form of a blowup that is completely disproportional to whatever seemed to trigger it. You end up fighting not … Continue reading Fighting fair: Focus on the behaviour, not the person
Couples exist on a spectrum between "l" and "We". The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Know that spending time apart does not mean you are decreasing the overall closeness in your relationship. When a strong emotional connection already exists, you and your partner are able to pursue your … Continue reading Balancing I and we: Getting to know yourself
Couples exist on a spectrum between "l" and "We". The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talking to each other about what balance is important and how it feels like for each of you. It won’t always … Continue reading Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Are your family or friends judging you?
Couples exist on a spectrum between "l" and "We". The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talking to each other about what balance is important and how it feels like for each of you. It won’t always … Continue reading Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Stay connected by addressing your current balance and taking the initiative in the direction you and your partner would like to move
We all know that one couple who does everything together – he tags along to book club, she comes with to watch the game. They share every leisure activity and rarely attend activities independently. Conversely, you know that other couple that seems to live completely separate lives—different friends, hobbies, and ways of spending their free … Continue reading Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Are you more on the ‘I’ end of the spectrum?
We all know a one couple that seems to do everything together. You know the one. They share every leisure activity, and rarely if ever, does one partner make plans that don’t involve the other. Maybe you see this in your best friend’s relationship, maybe in a relative’s relationship, or maybe in your own. Maintaining … Continue reading Balancing I and We: Make new friends, and keep the old
“Majority of Americans Now Believe in Cohabitation.” That’s the headline and conclusion from a national survey conducted by the Barna Group. They surveyed 1,097 adults in April 2016, finding that 65 percent of Americans now approve of cohabiting prior to tying the knot, while 35 percent do not. Given that nearly 70 percent of Americans … Continue reading Millennials are more likely to endorse cohabitation prior to marriage than their older counterparts
Invest in your relationship: If you are spending $20,000 or even $50,000 on your wedding, are you willing to invest $20 in your marriage? Leading up to Valentine's Day (February 7-14), you can take Couple Checkup™ for only $19.95! This Valentine's Day, focus on the two of you. It can be a time where you … Continue reading Make your relationship the centre of attention: Check in this Valentine’s Day
Do you dread Valentine's Day? Does it seem like a day with unrealistic expectations? Do you feel let down when the day is over, or that you could've done more? Research shows that couples who try new things together are more satisfied in their relationship. This year for Valentine's Day, try breaking from your usual … Continue reading Let’s check in this Valentine’s Day and make your relationship stronger
Cohabiting relationships break up all the time, and increasingly so, but the relative difference is the point. All other things being the same, a couple who is cohabiting will have a harder time breaking up than a couple who is only dating. Because many people cohabit before even having mutual clarity about commitment, such as … Continue reading Inertia and cohabitation: It’s harder to break it off than only dating