The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Intellectual)

Emphasising the importance of self awareness before successful engagement with your partner, the model is a process of learning new habits to create personal and interpersonal effectiveness. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Intellectual) The importance of renewal in our lives can not be underestimated. Through reading, visualising, planning and writing we can continually learn, grow … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Intellectual)

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Physical)

Take the time to focus on your physical, intellectual, social and spiritual self. We are all in a state of entropy and only consistent and continued refinement and attention to all of these areas will ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement in ourselves and our relationships. Learn to take care of … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Physical)

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 6 – Synergise, two respectful minds communicating to create solutions

One plus one is greater than the sum of its parts... that's what marriage purports to deliver. And if you seek to understand your partners needs and interests and resist defending and stonewalling, intimacy grows. Choose your attitude. You can achieve so much more when you engage synergistically in your marriage than if you act … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 6 – Synergise, two respectful minds communicating to create solutions

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 5 – Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Active Listening is not easy to learn and do, but once it becomes a habit, it can transform your relationship forever. By listening and understanding your partner - by truly listening, your relationship can be renewed, and intimacy will follow. Be patient and seek to understand... you will get your chance to express your thoughts … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 5 – Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 4 – Think Win/Win

Always thinking its my way or the highway? Think again. Consider a better way, a solution that benefits you AND your partner and cooperate for mutual long-term benefit. Imagine yourself responding in a mature, wise, self controlled manner. Choose a positive response and think win/win and work effectively with your partner. Discover a better way … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 4 – Think Win/Win

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 3 – Put First Things First

If Habit 2 is about beginning with the end in mind, or imagining and establishing the end state, then habit 3 is about focusing on the important matters to achieving your mission. If you tend to spend a lot of time doing things that are not that important, Habit 3 recommends you identify what is … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 3 – Put First Things First

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 2 – Begin with the End In Mind

How easy it is to get caught up in the busy-ness of life, working hard to climb the ladder of success, only to discover that all this time the ladder has been leaning against the wrong wall. By creating the future in your mind, you can imagine a course of action, pursue it and then … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 2 – Begin with the End In Mind

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 1 – Be Proactive

In 2012, the world lost one of its most highly effective teachers. Stephen R. Covey died on July 16, 2012, age 79. Covey will be remembered as a transformational thinker on leadership and personal effectiveness. His book 'The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People' is and continues to be an extraordinarily influential book delivering powerful … Continue reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Couples: Habit 1 – Be Proactive

Create a short, three step plan for change

Key to relationship harmony is taking complex tasks and distilling them into a short list that you and your partner can understand and remember. And that list should be no more than three, at most. The fact that there are only three seems to be the sweet spot for what our brain can remember day-to-day. … Continue reading Create a short, three step plan for change

Empower couples to turn stumbling blocks (issues) into stepping stones (strengths)

An important goal of all Relationship Education is to help build new strengths by resolving current issues. The Couple Checkup helps to identify a couple’s strengths, as well as issues they need to resolve. All intimate couples have issues and areas where their relationship could improve. Quite often, couples handle conflict in unproductive ways; or … Continue reading Empower couples to turn stumbling blocks (issues) into stepping stones (strengths)