Are you sharing the household responsibilities in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how household responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. How do you plan to balance your work with household tasks and responsibilities?  Are there certain tasks that neither of you like to do?  What would need … Continue reading Are you sharing the household responsibilities in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Are you sharing decision making and leadership in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore relationship roles with your partner

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. Your career (equalitarian): A career can be equally important to both partners. Can you share why having a career is important to you? Do you … Continue reading Are you sharing decision making and leadership in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore relationship roles with your partner

Managing your finances well brings a sense of calm that can do wonders to your relationship

Looking to having your financial situation in order isn't that sexy but it does assist in freeing up the mind and the left hand side of the brain to concentrate on other priorities in your relationship. Freeing your mind from the daily grind of managing your budget can do wonders for other areas of your … Continue reading Managing your finances well brings a sense of calm that can do wonders to your relationship

Happily married couples tend to have better physical and emotional health, greater financial stability and more sexual satisfaction

Marriage is perhaps the most complex and challenging of all human relationships. The joining of two people in a relationship which is intended to last a lifetime can involve great effort to develop and maintain. There are many benefits for those who make the commitment to marriage and manage to maintain a successful relationship. Happily … Continue reading Happily married couples tend to have better physical and emotional health, greater financial stability and more sexual satisfaction

What are your short-term and long-term financial goals?

Budgeting is simply the process of allocating expenses on a regular basis. A good #budget is simple, realistic and clear. It builds in some personal control for each family member. In creating a realistic budget, focus first on the most basic needs like food, housing and clothing. Second, focus on what you would like to … Continue reading What are your short-term and long-term financial goals?

Sliding v Deciding: Cohabitation and couple Finances

A major finding of recent research into the effects of cohabitation on subsequent marital outcomes is the potential detrimental consequences of ‘sliding’ in relationships rather than ‘deciding’ – that is letting transition events ‘just happen’ rather than making a considered, unambiguous decision. A discussion for cohabiting couples is about what the couple agree a healthy … Continue reading Sliding v Deciding: Cohabitation and couple Finances

Financial management: Understand your opinions about savings, debt, handling money, and making financial decisions

Many couples report finances as the biggest single problem in their relationship and others may report finances as a Growth Area. In either case, if neglected financial stress can increase and become a burden on the relationship. It is crucial to talk about this area and begin to put in place a budget, savings plan, … Continue reading Financial management: Understand your opinions about savings, debt, handling money, and making financial decisions

The golden rule of budgeting: Spend less than you earn and save and invest the rest

Money is a powerful word that conjures up a number of emotions, among them lust, envy, fear, anger, hope, scorn and disgust. Little wonder then, that the most common source of disagreement in families in Australia is money. In fact, 37 percent of all married couples indicate that the number one problem in their marriage … Continue reading The golden rule of budgeting: Spend less than you earn and save and invest the rest

When couples ask you “Does premarital education really work?”

A US survey of relationship quality contained two questions on whether married respondents (or previously married respondents) obtained premarital education. Almost 2,000 respondents were asked, “Did you and your current spouse have premarital preparation, such as educational classes, a workshop, or counseling designed to help you get a good start in marriage?” (Stanley, S., Amato, … Continue reading When couples ask you “Does premarital education really work?”

Managing your families expectations: You’re in this together

We know that family of origin has a huge effect on how we spend our holidays. For couples, it is a time often filled with obligations and assumptions based on the traditions that we grew up with.  It is assumed we will spend time with our respective families and that we will follow the traditions … Continue reading Managing your families expectations: You’re in this together