What did you most enjoy about your relationship today? 5 minutes a day can transform your relationship

Daily Dialogue is an intentional effort to talk about your relationship, rather than discussing your activities that day. The focus of this dialogue should be on your feelings about each other and your lives together. Set aside five minutes per day to discuss the following: What did you most enjoy about your relationship today? What … Continue reading What did you most enjoy about your relationship today? 5 minutes a day can transform your relationship

Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

A study in the US surveyed almost 1,000 couples who had been married five years or less and identified sex, work and finances as the top three problem and adjustment issues for couples (Risch, Riley & Lawler: 2003). The top three issues identified were: frequency of sexual relations balancing job and family financial issues Continuing … Continue reading Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

A study in the US surveyed almost 1,000 couples who had been married five years or less and identified sex, work and finances as the top three problem and adjustment issues for couples (Risch, Riley & Lawler: 2003). The top three issues identified were: frequency of sexual relations balancing job and family financial issues 1. … Continue reading Sex, Work and Finances: Common problems in the early years of marriage

Couple Assessment: a financial and emotional investment

When couples pay for their couple assessment experience, it often assumes greater value and drives deeper engagement in the process.  For premarital couples, payment has the additional benefit of helping them focus directly on their relationship. Often, engagement is a period when couples are distracted by the externals related to the wedding itself and they … Continue reading Couple Assessment: a financial and emotional investment

To what extent does Parental Divorce Hinder Marrying Couples?

Are premarital individuals who have experienced parental divorce likely to be poorer communicators than those whose parents have not divorced? Sometimes it is assumed that this is the case however, a US research suggests that this might be just a stereotypical myth. A study by Chris Segrin and Melissa Taylor in 2006 examined the association … Continue reading To what extent does Parental Divorce Hinder Marrying Couples?

Don’t Neglect Skills Training

The use of inventories like Couple Checkup and PREPARE/ENRICH differ from group structured programs largely in scale, and while at least two thirds of inventory users indicate that skills training is incorporated into sessions with couples, a study indicates that it would appear that the amount of skills training is rather limited in the majority … Continue reading Don’t Neglect Skills Training

Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Exploring your personality and your partner’s personality, can be a fascinating and fun process. It can also point out challenges for couples who love one another, but have very different personalities and approaches to life. Remember the positive aspects of your partner’s personality that attracted you in the first place. Question: Do “opposites attract” or … Continue reading Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Are you sharing decision making in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other's preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship. Often our traditional or equalitarian behaviours are bought into out relationship from our family of origin. If you expect to have an equal relationship, where … Continue reading Are you sharing decision making in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore each other’s family of origin