There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict: For starters, resist the urge to bring up past experiences that have already been resolved

While pride, bias, and defensiveness are mechanisms that prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner, there are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict in your relationship. Communicating assertively and taking responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focusing solely on the issue at hand … Continue reading There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict: For starters, resist the urge to bring up past experiences that have already been resolved

Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?). 'Pick your battles' is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it … Continue reading Pride, bias, and defense mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner

Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication is the foundation of your relationship; you and your partner rely on healthy communication skills to productively work through both celebrations and struggles in your relationship. Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively. To recap, assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in … Continue reading Healthy communication relies on both partners ability to be assertive and to listen actively considering each other’s needs

Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Sure, we communicate with our partner regularly, but the quality (which really matters) is not always a concern. Productive, supportive, positive communication is vital to relationship health. When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good! Give praise to your partner and share affirmations which help increase … Continue reading Communication: Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Assertiveness and active listening are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship

To recap, assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship, while active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard. The process of active listening lets the speaker know if their message was accurately received. It’s imperative for the listener to acknowledge the content and the … Continue reading Assertiveness and active listening are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship

Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening. The process of active listening lets the speaker know if their message was accurately received. It’s imperative for the listener to acknowledge the content and the feelings of the speaker. Acknowledge content AND the feelings … Continue reading Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard

Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening. To be assertive, it’s important to take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings by using “I” statements instead of starting with “you.” In making constructive requests, be positive and respectful in communication. Use polite phrases … Continue reading Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship

When you put effort towards something, it can be helpful to foresee outcomes

Whether you work through your CoupleCheckup results in its entirety or section by section, articulating outcomes now, being mindful of them along the way will help guide you and your partner to find success through the journey. Accountability (or lack of it) can be the reason you reach (or fail to reach) a particular outcome. … Continue reading When you put effort towards something, it can be helpful to foresee outcomes

You can’t pass or fail CoupleCheckup: CoupleCheckup defines you and your partners strength and growth areas providing a basis for discussion

You can’t pass or fail Couple Checkup and yet there are categories labeled as strength and growth areas. Let’s define those terms, along with others. A strength area has high couple agreement whereas a growth area has low couple agreement. Positive couple agreement happens when both you and your partner answer in a healthy direction. … Continue reading You can’t pass or fail CoupleCheckup: CoupleCheckup defines you and your partners strength and growth areas providing a basis for discussion

Couple checkup: An assessment that primes couples to be open an motivated to discuss their relationship

The primary goal of CoupleCheckup is to get couples talking, even if that conversation doesn’t happen right away. Couple Checkup is not a test. It is an assessment of a couples relationship across several categories. To give couples a deeper understanding of what that means, let’s talk about what Couple Checkup IS and ISN’T. Couple … Continue reading Couple checkup: An assessment that primes couples to be open an motivated to discuss their relationship