What matters is how we handle disagreements: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of every relationship and what matters is how we discuss and resolve our differences. The following four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman will help you break patterns of negativity and take a positive approach to … Continue reading What matters is how we handle disagreements: 4 tips to break patterns of negativity

This month we are making a commitment to “check-in” every day

I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we take the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other. But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check-in daily” Here’s what we did … Continue reading This month we are making a commitment to “check-in” every day

We are making a commitment to meet weekly: the next level “check in”

I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we take the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other. Weekly check-in: Every Friday, we will decided to meet at our local coffee shop and “check in” (if … Continue reading We are making a commitment to meet weekly: the next level “check in”

We barely have time for each other: Pick a reasonable time and decided on just how often you will “check in”

I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we drive the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other. But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check in.” A “check in” is … Continue reading We barely have time for each other: Pick a reasonable time and decided on just how often you will “check in”

Fighting fair: Focus on the behaviour, not the person

You can try to avoid conflict by tamping down negative emotions and brushing seemingly minor issues under the rug, but at some point, they will come back to bite you. Many times this is in the form of a blowup that is completely disproportional to whatever seemed to trigger it. You end up fighting not … Continue reading Fighting fair: Focus on the behaviour, not the person

Balancing I and we: Getting to know yourself

Couples exist on a spectrum between "l" and "We". The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Know that spending time apart does not mean you are decreasing the overall closeness in your relationship. When a strong emotional connection already exists, you and your partner are able to pursue your … Continue reading Balancing I and we: Getting to know yourself

Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Are your family or friends judging you?

Couples exist on a spectrum between "l" and "We". The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talking to each other about what balance is important and how it feels like for each of you. It won’t always … Continue reading Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Are your family or friends judging you?

Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Stay connected by addressing your current balance and taking the initiative in the direction you and your partner would like to move

Couples exist on a spectrum between "l" and "We". The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talking to each other about what balance is important and how it feels like for each of you. It won’t always … Continue reading Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Stay connected by addressing your current balance and taking the initiative in the direction you and your partner would like to move

Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Are you more on the ‘I’ end of the spectrum?

We all know that one couple who does everything together – he tags along to book club, she comes with to watch the game. They share every leisure activity and rarely attend activities independently. Conversely, you know that other couple that seems to live completely separate lives—different friends, hobbies, and ways of spending their free … Continue reading Balancing ‘I’ and ‘We’: Are you more on the ‘I’ end of the spectrum?

Balancing I and We: Make new friends, and keep the old

We all know a one couple that seems to do everything together. You know the one. They share every leisure activity, and rarely if ever, does one partner make plans that don’t involve the other. Maybe you see this in your best friend’s relationship, maybe in a relative’s relationship, or maybe in your own. Maintaining … Continue reading Balancing I and We: Make new friends, and keep the old