Changing aspects of your personality, or your partners is largely a misconception. It is one of those things in life that can’t change and it tends to stay stable over time.

Personality is simply understood as the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking and behaving. It is one of those things in life that can't change and it tends to stay stable over time. Some might argue you can change aspects of your personality, or your partner’s if you try hard enough. … Continue reading Changing aspects of your personality, or your partners is largely a misconception. It is one of those things in life that can’t change and it tends to stay stable over time.

Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

There are many personality theories and concepts that can help you understand your own personality and your partners. Couple Checkup uses SCOPE to help individuals see how high or low they score on each of the five factors of personality (Social, Change, Organised, Pleasing and Emotionally calm). With SCOPE, it is possible to score high on … Continue reading Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

Personality is simply understood as the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking and behaving. It is one of those things in life that can't change and it tends to stay stable over time. Some might argue you can change aspects of your personality, or your partner’s, if you try hard … Continue reading Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

Conflict is inevitable in relationships: Make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger. The next time you find yourself on the verge of an argument, focus on using “I statements” to take responsibility for your own feeling: “I felt … Continue reading Conflict is inevitable in relationships: Make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict

What are non-verbal cues that you give your partner or that your partner gives you that influence the direction of the discussion?

Pride, bias, and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict in your relationship. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How does … Continue reading What are non-verbal cues that you give your partner or that your partner gives you that influence the direction of the discussion?

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a "time out." Taking 5 to 20 minutes away from your partner will calm you enough to allow … Continue reading When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What does “take … Continue reading When conflict arises try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: How can you … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner – be respectful

Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation. Try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand. Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner: What is my … Continue reading Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

Pick your battles is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it can be detrimental to your relationship. Pride, bias, and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies … Continue reading When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation