Commitment can be clear when we say statements like, “’till death do us part,” but the way in which we show commitment to our partner is much less clear

If you took an assessment or are working through aspects if your relationship, or just reading this blog, not only are you committed to strengthening your relationship, but you are committed to your partner. Maybe you formally committed to each other by accepting a proposal six months ago or by exchanging vows at your wedding … Continue reading Commitment can be clear when we say statements like, “’till death do us part,” but the way in which we show commitment to our partner is much less clear

It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity

It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity, communicate with your partner to find an appropriate balance for your relationship. Application Start small. If you and your partner decide you are too connected – schedule time to do activities independently, even … Continue reading It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity

Balance between “I” and “We” may not always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome

Couples exist on a spectrum between "I" and "We", but the key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it … Continue reading Balance between “I” and “We” may not always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome

Discuss possible outcomes that provide a equitable balance between “I” and “We”

Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome. Take time with your partner to discuss the … Continue reading Discuss possible outcomes that provide a equitable balance between “I” and “We”

Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication

Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together. Maybe you and your partner are engaged or newly married and you are happy, in love, and feel more connected than ever – you’re more on the “we” end … Continue reading Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication

There is no perfect way to balance being together and apart from your partner: Balancing “I” and “We” requires communication

We all know that one couple who does everything together – he tags along to book club, she comes with to watch the game. They share every leisure activity and rarely attend activities independently. Conversely, you know that other couple that seems to live completely separate lives—different friends, hobbies, and ways of spending their free … Continue reading There is no perfect way to balance being together and apart from your partner: Balancing “I” and “We” requires communication

Consider spending an upcoming date night taking a personality assessment to learn even more about each other

Personality is stable throughout life, so don’t expend energy in your relationship trying to change your partner’s personality, instead put in effort to understand each other’s personality factors as well as your own. Application: Begin acknowledging aspects of your personality, as well as your partner’s, in everyday life. For example, if one of you is … Continue reading Consider spending an upcoming date night taking a personality assessment to learn even more about each other

Changing aspects of your personality, or your partners is largely a misconception. It is one of those things in life that can’t change and it tends to stay stable over time.

Personality is simply understood as the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking and behaving. It is one of those things in life that can't change and it tends to stay stable over time. Some might argue you can change aspects of your personality, or your partner’s if you try hard enough. … Continue reading Changing aspects of your personality, or your partners is largely a misconception. It is one of those things in life that can’t change and it tends to stay stable over time.

Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

There are many personality theories and concepts that can help you understand your own personality and your partners. Couple Checkup uses SCOPE to help individuals see how high or low they score on each of the five factors of personality (Social, Change, Organised, Pleasing and Emotionally calm). With SCOPE, it is possible to score high on … Continue reading Your personality frames how you approach life and for some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges

Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills

Personality is simply understood as the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking and behaving. It is one of those things in life that can't change and it tends to stay stable over time. Some might argue you can change aspects of your personality, or your partner’s, if you try hard … Continue reading Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills