Forgiveness is crucial to the health of a relationship. Since we experience hurt and forgiveness differently, it can be a challenge to apply new methods when we need to forgive one another.
Instead of advising you on how to forgive, we want to encourage you to think about it differently.
Forgiveness is often associated with healing a deep hurt, and while this is important for those situations, that scenario is not applicable to relationships that are not working through significant issues. A deep hurt refers to a situation in which a significant level of forgiveness is required such as infidelity.
You can begin to identify forgiveness in daily life by recognising everyday lapses in thoughtfulness that require you to forgive your partner and for your partner to forgive you. An everyday lapse in thoughtfulness can be as simple as when you forget to notice your partners new haircut, or when your partner of 10 years forgets to bring the garbage bin in this week, or even when your partner of 50 years washes your new white shirt with his red jumper.
These simple lapses in thoughtfulness can be acknowledged, addressed, and forgiven with small conscious effort.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples… that’s a great place start! Tune in for more tips next week.
Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.
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The CoupleCheckup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The CoupleCheckup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The CoupleCheckup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the CoupleCheckup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.