Pick your battles is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it can be detrimental to your relationship.
When conflict arises and the issue is of a serious nature to both or one partner, seek to put aside time when both are ready to discuss the issue.
Then, when you are both ready, acknowledge the current disagreement and work through the conflict by actively listening to each other. To recap, active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and then, restating what was heard.
Avoid using blameful language towards your partner. In order to deal with conflict in a healthy productive manner, inviting negativity into the situation is often a sure way to derail the discussion. However, if this does occur agree to take time out and pick up the conversation when emotions have subsided.
While embracing the conflict and dealing with it can be uncomfortable, it can ultimately bring you closer as a couple.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples… that’s a great place start! Tune in for more tips next week.
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