Roles are most likely already assigned in your relationship: someone takes out the garbage, someone else does the laundry, etc. But do you know every chore your partner does to contribute to the entire household? Probably not.
There are household tasks we complete routinely that go unnoticed. When you become more aware of which tasks you and your partner complete, you can evaluate the quality of the distribution. Interest can change over time as well as ability; it is natural to make adjustments along the way.
Consider these questions with your partner:
- How do roles change when your lifestyle changes (children, job change, new home, retirement, etc.)?
- Have you discussed how future lifestyle changes might affect the roles you and your partner currently have?
- How is leadership distributed within your relationship?
- What are effective ways to make decisions regarding your household?
- Is this a shared responsibility?
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples… that’s a great place start! Tune in for more tips next week.
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