Acknowledging how parenting can affect your marriage is the first step to minimising any negative impact. But secondly, understanding each other’s parenting style, this is where true collaboration and support in each other’s parenting efforts can make a difference.
By developing an understanding of how you and your partner each parent your children, you can then better support each other to become better parents, while also considering the impact it has on your relationship.
Here is an approach worth considering:
Set aside a few days and document (in a notebook or on your phone) your parenting interactions with your child(ren) and simultaneously document your relationship satisfaction. Identify any patterns to better understand how your parenting and relationship relate. If you are curious about your parenting style – research the different styles in previous posts and use your documented interactions as examples to help you figure out which style you gravitate towards.
If you are looking to strengthen your parenting skills, check out what your community has to offer as resources. Take a class or join a group of other parents to work on your skills and gain support.
If you are interested in understanding more about your relationship and parenting, consider locating a PREPARE/ENRICH Facilitator in your area and taking the Parenting Version of PREPARE/ENRICH.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples… that’s a great place start! Tune in for more tips next week.
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