Parenting can significantly impact the relationship you have with your partner, however when you bring in the complexity of different parenting styles, that is when the tension can rise between couples.
Acknowledging how parenting can affect your marriage is the first step to minimising any negative impact. But secondly, understanding each other’s parenting style, this is where true collaboration and support in each other’s parenting efforts can make a difference.
You and your partner might parent using different styles and you might even find yourself parenting each child with a different style, perhaps the style you were parented when a child. That’s okay, but it is likely to cause frustration and conflict. A variety of theories and explanations of parenting styles exist, but the democratic, or balanced, style has been known to be most effective for relationship educational purposes. The key here is to understand the differences in style that exist between you and your partner and overall – aim for balance, agreement, and unity.
The democratic parenting style balances age-appropriate child autonomy and parental control. Parenting is nurturing, discipline is consistent, and according to research this balanced style tends to have the best outcomes for children and teens.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
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