Recognising the role forgiveness plays in daily life, identifying its presence and its healing power can bring about significant changes in your relationship.
If you exaggerated the act of forgiving in your relationship for a period of time – even just a week – you may see how often it happens. Here’s an example: you forget to start the dishwasher after dinner and there are no clean coffee cups for your partner to have their morning cup of coffee… you take responsibility for your action and apologise. Your partner acknowledges your efforts and forgives you, and then you forgive yourself. By going through the amplified motions, you’ll see how effortlessly you already incorporate forgiveness into your relationship.
If the day comes when a more significant hurt needs to be forgiven, both partners should revisit the discussion points earlier to prime the interaction. This will help each of you work through seeking and granting forgiveness. Putting effort into the process of forgiveness can bring about positive change.
Remember, forgiveness is the decision or choice to give up the right for vengeance, retribution, and negative thoughts, and while important on a daily basis, it can also be the starting point for healing and reconciliation.
If forgiveness seems unachievable, it’s okay to seek professional help.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples… that’s a great place start! Tune in for more tips next week.
Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.
More tips at www.couplecheckup.com.au, tune in next week…
Take the Couple Checkup Simply click on the Register button below relevant to your relationship – it couldn’t be easier. Once you have finished the questions you should receive your comprehensive personalised report in about 30 seconds.
The CoupleCheckup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The CoupleCheckup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The CoupleCheckup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the CoupleCheckup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.