Unfortunately, there will be times in your relationship when you will need to put more effort into forgiveness. In preparation for those times, we want to remind you what forgiveness is and what it isn’t.
Forgiveness is a process that promotes healing and is a starting point for reconciliation. Forgiveness isn’t forgetting, condoning, or perpetuating injustice. It isn’t granted on demand and it doesn’t automatically guarantee reconciliation.
Forgiveness is the decision or choice to give up the right for vengeance, retribution, and negative thoughts.
Don’t forget to forgive yourself! We often think of forgiveness from the perspective of the victim forgiving the transgressor, and while this is often the case, you will never truly feel healed until you forgive yourself. If you take responsibility for your actions and abandon any remaining self- resentment, this will help prevent that hurt from finding a way back into your relationship years down the road.
If forgiveness seems unachievable, it’s okay to seek professional help.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples… that’s a great place start! Tune in for more tips next week.
Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.
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The CoupleCheckup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The CoupleCheckup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The CoupleCheckup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the CoupleCheckup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.