Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger.
The next time you find yourself on the verge of an argument, focus on using “I statements” to take responsibility for your own feeling: “I felt ______ when ______”.
Since it often takes time to learn new strategies and because conflicts organically develop, make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict.
Agree that the next time a conflict comes up, you’ll take time to discuss how you dealt with the disagreement. Think of it as reviewing your performance.
Take note of what new strategies helped and where you each need to be more mindful. By doing this, you and your partner are being accountable for the application of these skills into your life and thus strengthening your relationship.
If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.
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