Daily Dialogue is an intentional effort to talk about your relationship, rather than discussing your activities that day. The focus of daily dialogue is on your feelings about each other and your lives together.
Beyond daily dialogue, taking time to discuss deeper more intimate details about your feelings is also important towards increasing intimacy.
In the next few days schedule a time (preferably after a meal) to talk constructively together about the following topics and what you both could do about it for the benefit of the less satisfied partner. Go down this list of statements and indicate honestly your level of agreement for each one. Compare your responses with those your partner.
For those items where you both ‘agree’ or ‘strongly agree’ try to think of an example to share with your partner. Note the items for which your response differs from your partner’s.
Talk as constructively as you can about items that you have both marked ‘disagree’ or ‘strongly disagree’. If there are a number of these do please consider getting the help of a qualified third party, don’t risk these issues becoming terminal. Don’t attempt to discuss more than any one topic at a sitting.
Select one of the following to the statements below: Strongly disagree; Disagree; Undecided; Agree; Strongly Agree:
- I am very satisfied with how my partner and I communicate
- We are creative in how we cope with our differences
- We feel very connected to one another
- My partner seldom seems too controlling
- My partner is able to understand my opinions and ideas when we discuss problems
- Our sexual relationship is satisfying and fulfilling to me
- We have a good balance of leisure time spent together and separately
- My partner’s friends or family rarely interfere with our relationship
- We usually agree on how to spend money
- I am satisfied with how we express spiritual values and beliefs
Consider the Couple Checkup, a tool designed to help you and your partner build a more satisfying and intimate relationship. The Couple Checkup evaluates up to 25 important areas in a couple’s relationship including: couple and family systems, personality and age and stage of relationship.
Adapted from www.prepare-enrich.com.au, the Couple Checkup evaluates important areas in a couple’s relationship including eight core scales (i.e. communication, conflict resolution, role relationship and sexual relationship), four couple and family system scales (closeness and flexibility), five personality scales (based on the Big Five Personality Scales), and between four and eight specific scales relevant to the age and stage of the couple based on background questions ( i.e. cohabiting, children from previous relationship, and intergenerational issues).
The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions.
The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.
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