Couples exist on a spectrum between “l” and “We”. The key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship.
Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talking to each other about what balance is important and how it feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together.
Regardless of where you are, address your current balance and take the initiative in the direction you and your partner would like to move.
- In what ways do you stay connected if you can’t spend time with your partner?
- Do you ever look forward to time apart from your partner?
- What are the benefits to having interests and commitments independent of your partner?
- Does it help bring you closer to your partner?
- How can the balance of togetherness and separateness improve in your relationship?
- What do you need to feel close to your partner and still feel independent at the same time?
Tune in next week for more relationship ideas – Balancing, I and We.
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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.