Ensuring we focus on the important matters today to reach our goals tomorrow is critical to our long term success. But are our goals clearly defined? Reviewing and resetting our goals needs to occur regularly to ensure efforts are directed intentionally to the right things.
All Relationships including those with your spouse and children (and others) tend towards entropy, disorder and dissolution. Marriage and divorces can be disastrous for those concerned, especially for children. Being intentional and principle centred can revitalise and enrich your marriage, ensuring your marriage is sustained and endures.
Adapted from the late Stephen R. Coveys book, Principle Centred Leadership, the following 8 ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships provides a guide to principles that are important to marriage. Each principle requires reflection, discussion and action.
These eight principles help to make marriage last:
Principle 4 – Reset your goals:
If you tend to spend a lot of time doing things that are not that important, identify what ‘is’ important in order to keep you heading towards your destination. Stay on track, take the initiative, exercise willpower and get the important things done.
Imagine the end state and do things in a disciplined way. Balance the short and long-term priorities and ensure your effort is expended effectively.
A practical approach to keep you on track is to review your couple or family goals on a quarterly basis.
Resetting your goals can free us up to be a more effective spouse, parent and worker.
Successful couples appreciate that change is inevitable, therefore they realign goals regularly. They remain flexible and allow for error and therefore alleviate anxiety. They realign their goals and they are encouraged and energised.
Principle five, next week…
Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the new video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM
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