By Sheila Frye, guest author – Associated Counselors & Psychologists Sydney
Spotting an extrovert in a crowd is the exact opposite of finding a needle in a haystack. More often than not, extroverts are the ones who easily mingle with anyone whether it’s a familiar face or a fresh acquaintance. They know most people in the room—either that or they’re working on it. In some cases, they are the actual life of the party.
Here’s the thing: making friends with an extrovert is the easy part. However, being in a relationship with one can be a bit taxing especially if you’re the more laidback type and can prefer silence. The truth is, while extroverts are generally seen as happy people, they also encounter personality clashes, such as when their partner is more reserved or introverted.
Over the next 10 weeks, we’ll share 10 ways to show your love for your extrovert partner:
1. Allow them to socialise:
Extroverts get a rush from being with people, which is why parties and gatherings take up a lot of room in your partner’s day planner. By engaging with people and communicating with them, extroverts are able to recharge. Tthe more energy they gain, the more they can expend. It is easy for extroverts to become the life of the party as they thrive on attention, whether they are on the giving or receiving end.
You’ve probably noticed by now how excited your partner gets when attending events, not to mention how animated he can be once he starts talking. It may be tempting to shush your mate once he works up all that energy, but instead of doing that, go bask in his dynamism and laugh along.
It can also help you appreciate your partner more if you watch from a distance and nod at him to show that you’re on his team. Being in groups puts extroverts in their element, and it’s important that you make them feel that you can roll with their personality.
A lot of extroverts are often misunderstood as happy-go-lucky people. But before you decide to join that bandwagon, you have to play fair with your partner and try looking at things from their perspective. Take advantage of the fact that extroverts like to talk, and make sure that you get your point across.
There are times when clashing of a couple’s personalities can’t be resolved between partners alone. If you have a reason to believe that you and your partner’s issue is bordering on being out of control, you can opt to escalate your relationship problems to a professional who can give you proper advice. In any case, it’s still worth trying these ways to show your love for your extrovert partner.
Tune in next week for more tips next week.
Source: Sheila Frye, guest author – Associated Counselors & Psychologists Sydney
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