Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Exploring Personality types

Exploring your personality and your partner’s personality, can be a fascinating and fun process. It can also point out challenges for couples who love one another, but have very different personalities and approaches to life.

Remember the positive aspects of your partner’s personality that attracted you in the first place.

Question: Do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather flock together”? Answer: Both may be true. 

Consider the following: 

  1. In what area(s) are your personalities similar?
  2. How can your similarities be a strength?
  3. How can your similarities create problems?
  4. In what areas are your personalities different?
  5. How can your differences be a strength?
  6. How can your differences create problems?
  7. Do the roles you fulfill in your relationship match your personality strengths? (e.g. Does the person who scored high on organisation manage the finances?)

Idea: Don’t try to change your partner’s personality. Remember the positive aspects of your partner’s personality that attracted you in the first place. Be responsible for yourself. Try to learn behaviours that will positively contribute to your relationship.

How can you use your personality differences as a strength in your relationship?

One approach to further investigating this is to complete the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment or Couple Checkup. Each tool is customised to your relationship type and helps identify each other’s unique strengths and growth areas. For the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills. For couple checkup, the assessment and resulting reports are self-administered.

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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

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