Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other’s preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship.
Your career (equalitarian): A career can be equally important to both partners.
- Can you share why having a career is important to you?
- Do you see your partner’s career being more important than yours and if so why?
- How will you balance your career(s) with your family life?
Roles and Responsibilities (equalitarian): There is flexibility in your roles and responsibilities.
- Do you feel that your roles are too flexible or too rigid? If so, why?
- What do you feel needs to be done to handle your roles and responsibilities better?
- What types of roles and responsibilities are you used to fulfilling?
Traditional: A marriage functions best if one person assumes the role as head of the household.
- Can you share your expectations for who will be the “head of the household”?
- Have you discussed your feelings about leadership and decision making?
- On what do you base your opinion in this area?
Often our traditional or equalitarian behaviours are bought into out relationship from our family of origin. If you expect to have an equal relationship, where we you and your partner share leadership and decision making or you feel that you would be happier if there was a more even balance of power in your relationship, then you need to explorer each other’s family of origin and what impact this may have on your relationship.
If both partners are working, and one partner is doing a greater share of household tasks for example, this inequity needs to be raised with your partner. Have you shared with each other what you would like for your roles to be regarding household chores? If not then you may need to or seek assistance from a marriage educator or relationship counselor.
One approach is to complete the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment or Couple Checkup. Each tool is customised to your relationship type and helps identify each other’s unique strengths and growth areas. For the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills. For couple checkup, the assessment and resulting reports are self-administered.
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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.