Part 2: chose when to fit in these 15 minutes and where in the house to “check in.”

I’m busy. My husband is busy. We work full-time, we take the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other.

But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check in.”

Here’s what we did to prepare:

  • We choose when to fit in these 15 minutes and where in our house to “check in.” For us, Monday through Friday tends to be crazy until the kids go to bed (after school activities, training, homework, dinner, etc.). We decided we would take 15 minutes after the kids are in bed, but before we get ready for bed to “check in.” 
  • We choose a place to “check in”, a place allocated to communicating with your my partner. Our place to “check in” is our living room lounge chair. On Saturday, we will get up and visit the local coffee shop and “check in” (our kids are old enough to stay home for a few hours, otherwise will young children, consider getting up early and check in at home).

This “check in” isn’t for discussing upcoming weekend dinner plans with friends, or school events, or who’s bringing the kids to practice Saturday morning. It’s time focused on just you and your partner. It can be a time where you have silly conversations, discuss your hopes and dreams, share what you appreciate about each other, dig into deep topics related to your marriage, or simply check in about each other’s day

Choose what works at that place in time.
My wife and I already do this to some extent (and you probably do too!). Those 5 minutes in bed before we drift off to sleep, the quick exchange sealed with a kiss, before we leave for the day, or maybe it’s the dinner conversation you have during your weekly maybe-once-a-month date night. We both know these sometimes infrequent moments (yes, they are just moments) should be more intentional in our relationship, but hey – life gets in the way!

I want to challenge you and your partner to commit to a “check in” along with us. Once you make a commitment, be intentional with your follow through. Do what you need to prepare. And then watch your relationship grow and become stronger.

Just like any new intention, accountability increases your chances for success. Voice your commitment out loud (or on social media) to your friends and family, it might even inspire them to join you! Use #CommitmentToCheckIn to let me know if you and your partner decide to make a commitment to “check in.”

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