Identify your expectation filter and begin to understand its impact on your relationship

Expectations can negatively impact your relationship if they are unrealistic or uncommunicated to your partner. The next time you or your partner feel disappointed because of an unmet expectation, talk about it. Try to identify why the expectation was not met. Was it too high to achieve? Was it not communicated? Did the expectation change … Continue reading Identify your expectation filter and begin to understand its impact on your relationship

Acknowledging expectations is the first step to managing them effectively in your relationship

Expectations can negatively impact your relationship if they are unrealistic or uncommunicated to your partner. If you expect something from your partner that is completely outside of their capabilities, how can your partner come close to meeting them? Additionally, communicating expectations effectively and managing conflict contributing to expectations is fundamental to ensuring your relationship endures. … Continue reading Acknowledging expectations is the first step to managing them effectively in your relationship

Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual experience

There are certain expectations you have of yourself, and others that you put on your partner and while that is not a bad thing, it can become detrimental to your relationship if your expectations are not realistic or even worse, uncommunicated. Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual … Continue reading Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual experience

Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened. Take action now and make it a point to talk about it

Commitment is not just a verbal exchange; it is a way of living out your relationship through meaningful actions that honor your verbal exchange. If you are engaged, notice the ways in which your commitment to your partner and your relationship are on display for others to honour. If you are married, acknowledge that the … Continue reading Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened. Take action now and make it a point to talk about it

Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship stating, “no matter what comes our way I will always be here for you.”

It’s crucial to understand your partner may be trying to show you they are committed, and you may just not be seeing it. Your partner’s level of commitment and your opinion or observation of their commitment could easily be two different things. Showing commitment in a variety of ways can help confirm your commitment, whether … Continue reading Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship stating, “no matter what comes our way I will always be here for you.”

Showing commitment in a variety of ways can help confirm your commitment, whether it is formally spoken or not

Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship stating, “no matter what comes our way I will always be here for you." We’ve all heard the cliché “actions speak louder than words,” and in the case of commitment, it may be true. The discrepancy between what we say and what we do comes when we … Continue reading Showing commitment in a variety of ways can help confirm your commitment, whether it is formally spoken or not

Commitment can be clear when we say statements like, “’till death do us part,” but the way in which we show commitment to our partner is much less clear

If you took an assessment or are working through aspects if your relationship, or just reading this blog, not only are you committed to strengthening your relationship, but you are committed to your partner. Maybe you formally committed to each other by accepting a proposal six months ago or by exchanging vows at your wedding … Continue reading Commitment can be clear when we say statements like, “’till death do us part,” but the way in which we show commitment to our partner is much less clear

It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity

It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity, communicate with your partner to find an appropriate balance for your relationship. Application Start small. If you and your partner decide you are too connected – schedule time to do activities independently, even … Continue reading It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity

Balance between “I” and “We” may not always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome

Couples exist on a spectrum between "I" and "We", but the key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship. Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it … Continue reading Balance between “I” and “We” may not always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome

Discuss possible outcomes that provide a equitable balance between “I” and “We”

Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome. Take time with your partner to discuss the … Continue reading Discuss possible outcomes that provide a equitable balance between “I” and “We”