Simple lapses in thoughtfulness can be acknowledged, addressed, and forgiven with small conscious effort

Forgiveness is crucial to the health of a relationship. Since we experience hurt and forgiveness differently, it can be a challenge to apply new methods when we need to forgive one another. Instead of advising you on how to forgive, we want to encourage you to think about it differently. Forgiveness is often associated with … Continue reading Simple lapses in thoughtfulness can be acknowledged, addressed, and forgiven with small conscious effort

Developing new friendships with other couples can help build your own relationship with your partner

The health of you and your partner’s relationships with each other’s family and friends contributes to the health of your relationship with your partner; it is important to nurture lifelong relationships with each other’s family and friends. Reminisce about the first time you and your partner introduced each other to family and friends. Consider how … Continue reading Developing new friendships with other couples can help build your own relationship with your partner

How much involvement in your relationship from family and friends is normal?

Family and friends are part of a larger system that can provide encouragement to your relationship, but that larger system can also be detrimental to your relationship if there is a significant lack of acceptance and support. Your partner’s family and friends, as well as your own, will impact your relationship in some way. With … Continue reading How much involvement in your relationship from family and friends is normal?

Boundaries in your relationship must be respected by family and friends, and you each need to be on the same page

Family and friends are part of a larger system that can provide encouragement to your relationship, but that larger system can also be detrimental to your relationship if there is a significant lack of acceptance and support.  Your partner’s family and friends, as well as your own, will impact your relationship in some way. With … Continue reading Boundaries in your relationship must be respected by family and friends, and you each need to be on the same page

Take time to learn and understand the values your partners family and friends hold

If you are struggling to connect with your partner’s friends or family, take time to learn and understand the values they hold. This might allow you to leverage a connection that leads to acceptance, support, and encouragement. If there are differences, don’t compromise your own values, but strive to understand. If you are already connected … Continue reading Take time to learn and understand the values your partners family and friends hold

Your partner’s family and friends, as well as your own, will impact your relationship in some way

Family and friends are part of a larger system that can provide encouragement for your relationship, but that larger system can also be detrimental to your relationship if there is a significant lack of acceptance and support. You want them to like your partner and you want your partner to like them. This happens naturally … Continue reading Your partner’s family and friends, as well as your own, will impact your relationship in some way

How does your communication and conflict resolution patterns contribute to expectations in your relationship?

There are certain expectations you have of yourself, and others that you put on your partner, and while that is not a bad thing, it can become detrimental to your relationship if your expectations are not realistic or even worse, uncommunicated. Additionally, if you expect something from your partner that is completely outside of their … Continue reading How does your communication and conflict resolution patterns contribute to expectations in your relationship?

Identify your expectation filter and begin to understand its impact on your relationship

Expectations can negatively impact your relationship if they are unrealistic or uncommunicated to your partner. The next time you or your partner feel disappointed because of an unmet expectation, talk about it. Try to identify why the expectation was not met: Was it too high to achieve? Was it not communicated? Did the expectation change … Continue reading Identify your expectation filter and begin to understand its impact on your relationship

Acknowledging expectations is the first step to managing them effectively in your relationship

Expectations can negatively impact your relationship if they are unrealistic or uncommunicated to your partner. If you expect something from your partner that is completely outside of their capabilities, how can your partner come close to meeting them? Additionally, communicating expectations effectively and managing conflict contributing to expectations is fundamental to ensuring your relationship endures. … Continue reading Acknowledging expectations is the first step to managing them effectively in your relationship

Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual experience

There are certain expectations you have of yourself, and others that you put on your partner and while that is not a bad thing, it can become detrimental to your relationship if your expectations are not realistic or even worse, uncommunicated. Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual … Continue reading Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual experience